On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Tyler Zach, author and certified Enneagram coach with 18 years of experience coaching students, adults, couples, and business teams. He has grown a vibrant community of over 47K Enneagram enthusiasts on his Instagram account @GospelForEnneagram. He is writing a faith-based 40-day devotional for every Enneagram type which you can grab on Amazon.com.

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Mary Adkins, a writing coach and founder of The Book Incubator, a 12-month program to write, revise, and pitch your novel or memoir. She is author of the novels When You Read This (Indie Next Pick, “Best Book of 2019” by Good Housekeeping and Real Simple), Privilege (Today.com “Best Summer Read,” New York Post “Best Book of the Week”), and Palm Beach (recently named one of the New York Post’s “Best Books of 2021”). Her books have been published in 13 countries, and her essays and reporting have appeared in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Slate, and more. A graduate of Yale Law School and Duke University, she helps aspiring authors finish their books with joy and clarity.

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Taylor Elyse Morrison. She is a founder, facilitator, coach, and serial entrepreneur making well-being and personal development more accessible. Through her company Inner Workout and her book of the same name, Taylor supports people’s journey to know, care for, and become their full selves. In this episode, we talk about Taylor’s experience with burnout, discuss her perspective on failure, and how she approaches self-care as a tool for her own well-being, all through the lens of an Enneagram Type 3.

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we are in full swing with season 3! As we introduce a new season, we are also introducing a new co-host, Heidi Alaniz Critz, who has been part of the Nine Types Co. team for almost three years. Get to know both of us in this episode as we do a deep dive into our personal Enneagram journeys, our types, subtypes, and more! 

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Scott Allender. Scott Allender is an expert in global leadership and organizational development. Along with cohosting The Evolving Leader podcast, Scott regularly teaches Enneagram workshops and conducts typing interviews and emotional intelligence assessments for individuals and teams who seek to become more radically self-aware and cognizant of the impact they have on the world. 

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Amanda E. White, a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love," and the workbook version which will be coming out in January 2023. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Self and more. We discuss performance and perfectionism, as well as explore the topic of Alcohol. This episode is great for those who are curious if their relationship with alcohol is serving them in their daily lives. What a great conversation with my fellow Enneagram Three!

This week’s episode of Enneagram IRL is a little special because I'm the one being interviewed! Truity Labs (@truitylabs) is an online personality assessment platform, and they have a variety of assessments, including the Enneagram. A few months ago, I was interviewed by Samantha Mackay, who creates training programs and content for Truity Labs! Fun Fact: Samantha and I met in the Chestnut Paes Enneagram Academy. In this interview, Samantha and I discussed some of the upsides and downsides of using the Enneagram with teams, my approach to leadership and organizational communication as a practitioner, and more. So thank you so much to Samantha and Truity for interviewing me!

On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Kimberly Reese, a licensed therapist, expert on Black Agency, and a Certified Enneagram Coach based out of Charlotte, North Carolina. With over a decade of specialized experience in treating trauma in the BIPOC community. She is originally from South Florida but was raised in Durham, North Carolina where she obtained her Bachelor of Social Work from Meredith College and completed her Master of Social Work at The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is committed to shifting the culture of mental health services by promoting quality therapeutic services to her clients in North Carolina. We talk about what it’s like to be an Enneagram Three, emotionality and being in the heart center, the Type Three approach to losing, failure, and achievement, and learning to do things we’re bad at.

When I think about communication, I think about more than just talking: it’s how we express ourselves (even silence is a form of self-expression), it’s how we connect (or don’t), it’s how we build relationships and cultivate our lives. It’s everything! And this is one of THE most important ways I think we can use the Enneagram. How do you communicate with yourself? (Yes, it’s a thing!) And how do you communicate with others?

If you’ve been curious about using the Enneagram for growth, improving your relationships, and deepening self-awareness, I have good news for you!

Type Threes are sometimes referred to as “The Performer” or “The Achiever.” However, as a Three, I think the thing people overemphasize with this type is the image of success. And I think the image of success matters to Threes as long as we emphasize that it’s not limited to financial or career success: it’s whatever “success” means to that individual and their family of origin or culture.

A lot of Threes have really tough inner critics related to never doing enough and not being 100% efficient. I find that people assume Threes are more confident and self-assured than they typically are. Threes need encouragement, too!

In relationships, Threes value competence and genuine care. Threes easily adapt in a given situation, yet in relationships they are seeking someone who can complement or match their intensity. When less healthy, they may become preoccupied with achievement, success, or another measure of their worth to the point that their partner feels that they have to compete for the Three’s attention (and always lose to the Three’s other interests). They are searching for a space to let their guard down, but it often takes time to find it. Threes are image-conscious and busy, yet underneath their search for worth is a deep desire to be valued for who they truly are.