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Enneagram Types in Relationships
ALL 45 TYPE PAIRINGS, AT YOUR FINGERTIPS
If you’re newer to the Enneagram (or to my page!), I bet there’s one question that is already on your mind: Which Enneagram types are most compatible?
When talking about relationships, this is by far the most common question I hear. And I get it! Many personality and typology tools offer guidance on which pairings work best, but it’s not so cut and dry with the Enneagram. While certain type pairings might be more common than others, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the only pairings that work. In reality, any pairing can work if both individuals are willing to show up and put in the effort.
Here’s an excerpt from my book, The Enneagram in Love to further explain:
“If you were hoping to use the Enneagram as a roadmap to your next date, I’ve got bad news for you: there is no such thing as a ‘most compatible’ Enneagram pairing. This insight often leaves love-seekers disappointed, but relationships are ultimately about people who are working toward growth and health as individuals, who are willing to show up and do the hard work in relationships, and who are kind, loving, and responsive to their partners. That’s it. Any pairing can work well if you’re willing to put in the effort. So here’s the good news: if you are already in a relationship, you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you are not with the wrong Enneagram type” (p. 88).
The posts linked here detail EACH type pairing (there are 45!), and cover strengths, challenges, and small tips to move toward growth for each. I recommend tapping on your type and then scrolling through to read more about each type paired with yours. Happy reading!